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Why Men Lie and Women Cry
嘘つき男と泣き虫女
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Allan & Barbara Pease
アラン ＆ バーバラ・ピーズ 著
藤井留美 訳
世界で８００万部の大ベストセラー『話を聞かない男、地図が読めない女』で有名なピーズ夫妻の『嘘つき男と泣き虫女』（日本語版：主婦の友社／英語版：Orion
Book Ltd.）の中から、英語と日本語で毎週１編をご紹介 。面白おかしく、かつ実践的に、男と女の不思議が解き明かされる！ |
（注：日本語は、日本の読者が読みやすいように編集されており、必ずしも完全訳ではありません。） |
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When a Hunter
Hangs Up His Bow - Retirement
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Paul and Dana's Story
Paul was an accounts manager whose working life had always been full of goals,
deadlines and targets. He thought he'd probably retire at 65. When he was 57,
however, his company was taken over by a competitor and, after years of loyal
service, he became redundant overnight. When he heard that the new owners of his
company were outsourcing the accounts department and had very different ideas
to his, he realised it was definitely the end of that era.
His partner Dana had retired three years earlier and was looking forward to Paul's
retirement. She was enjoying her own retirement a great deal. She now had the
time to do so many of the things she had always wanted to do and she wanted so
much to share her newfound happiness with Paul.
Dana was alarmed when Paul became gloomy about his redundancy. He sat around
drinking too much and was becoming depressed. The drinking and depression
were feeding on each other and Paul was going downhill fast.
Dana decided that professional help was needed. She convinced Paul to see a retirement
counsellor who she heard had a good reputation for dealing with newly retired
men. The counsellor helped Paul understand why he felt the way he did and showed
him how to tackle the next phase of his life. Paul decided to accept the challenges
the counsellor put to him.
The first step was to have a thorough medical exam and then to see a financial
planner. They would then take a holiday to relax and plan the rest of their lives.
The medical results showed Paul was fine apart from being nine kilos overweight
and having slightly heightened blood pressure and cholesterol. He visited a naturopath
who showed him healthy eating habits and gave him an exercise programme.
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You know you're getting old when your back goes out more than you do and when
you sink your teeth into a steak, they stay there.
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accounts：経理
competitor：競争相手
definitely：確かに
downhill ：下り坂
convince：納得させる
reputation：評判
blood pressure：血圧
naturopath：自然療法医
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The financial counsellor really put
Paul's mind at rest. First, he helped them complete a detailed budget. Next, he
explained how Paul's redundancy payment, combined with some savings and investments
and his and Dana's retirement funds would be sufficient to cover their budgetary
needs. In 10 to 15 years, proceeds from the sale of their home would be more than
enough to finance their later years in a retirement village if that was what they
chose to do.
After all this advice, Paul felt a huge burden had been lifted from his shoulders.
They set off on their holiday in a positive frame of mind. They had started to
plan their journey - one that would take 25 years or more to complete.
Their next challenge was a big one, to decide what they would do with the rest
of their lives. They needed a plan that took into account their individual and
joint goals.
They decided to modify their eating habits, throw out the old cookbooks
and replace them with healthy recipes that concentrated on their dietary
requirements. Next, they agreed they'd walk vigorously every day for at
least 45 minutes and join a walking club for an extended walk several times
a month. This would have the added advantage of introducing them to new
people. They signed up to learn T'ai Chi, as friends who did it always seemed
relaxed and calm, and the exercise would be beneficial. Dana already played
tennis once a week and was on the club committee. She was also in a patchwork
group and was trying her hand at writing a book. Paul had played golf a
few times but, although he enjoyed it, he never found time to play regularly.
He had a set of clubs and decided to give it a go.
Their finances gave them enough to meet living expenses, but no room for any extravagances.
Paul, therefore, decided he would investigate the possibilities of studying a
bookkeeping course through Adult Education, and set their monthly outgoings at
a firm level they could afford.
This left one more area to plan - community or charity work. "What have we
done in our lives that we could share with others less fortunate?" they asked
themselves. "Who are we most concerned about?"
They concluded that their greatest achievement was bringing up four happy, successful
and well-adjusted children. Paul had always been concerned about the welfare of
teenagers, and they understood the problems they faced without family support.
He decided to enquire about a youth counselling course and become a youth counsellor.
The pair committed their plan to writing and put it into a time-frame. When they
sat back and looked at it, they felt excited, and as though they couldn't wait
to get started.
Today, Paul and Dana are healthy and happy, enjoying life and helping others.
They are so busy they need to run a detailed diary. Retirement is proving to be
the most wonderful time of their lives. At a time when a man and a woman are thrown
together more than at any other period in their lives, it becomes vital that they
have learned all the lessons of Why Men Lie and Women Cry. For only then will
they be able to live happily, peacefully and lovingly, understanding each other's
strengths - and weaknesses - and be able to get out as much from their relationship
as they put in.
We firmly believe that using the tools offered in Why Men Lie and Women Cry can
help all men and women have closer, more fulfilling and sexier lives. Use them
wisely and use them well. Good luck!
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sufficient：十分な
vigorously：元気に
extravagance：贅沢
welfare：幸福
firmly ：しっかりと
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"Why men lie and Women cry" published by Orion Book Ltd.
(c) Allan Pease 2002, Used by kind permission by the authors.
・英語版の購入はこちら
・日本語版の購入はこちら
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Thanks to:
株式会社 主婦の友社
〒101-8911 東京都千代田区神田駿河台2-9 |
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Allan & Barbara
Pease
アラン ＆ バーバラ・ピーズ：プロフィール
全世界で８００万部を越すミリオンセラーとなった『話を聞かない男、地図が読めない女』の共著者夫妻。ロイヤル・ソサエティ・オブ・アーツの会員でボディ・ランゲージの世界的権威であるアラン（左）とバーバラ（右）は、ヒューマン・コミュニケーションをテーマに世界中で講演を行っている。
ピーズ夫妻のホームページ：
http://www.peaseinternational.com/
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